This blog was inspired by my lovely Aunti Glo lol. I was having a conversation about someone I feel is very special to me. Since I speak highly of this person she asked; "Well girl is this young man your boyfriend?" My response; " No aunti were just friends." Alot of people are soooo stuck on labels that they let the labels consume their "relationships." I'm happy without a label I'm happy to say me and this person are enjoying each others company just like a couple would minus the actual label. Just in case I'm losing you on this let me explain. What would be different if we both sat down and said hey this my girlfriend/ boyfriend? We go out and do "couple activities" we laugh, play, smile and frown. So what would be different? The only difference in my eyes is in the introduction... for example if I'm introducing this person to my friends No I wouldn't be saying; "Hey yall this is my "Boyfriend". What does it matter if i previously stated that im happy? Some of my friends, and family just don't get it. "either he is or he isn't" is something they would say. So I ask them what is the difference, what would change in our relationships if i told you he was my boyfriend? Nothing. It wouldn't make us any happier. The big label that you want is;" this is my Husband!" lol Honestly that's when things are different and actually means something. Some girls wont allow it, I have actually witness people end their friendships because they feel like the guy or girl isn't claiming them or doesn't want to take that next step with them. If you let labels end a friendship then honestly I think your crazy! You could've pressed the issue so much and pushed this person so far away that you have let your future label walk right out the door! (hubby and wifey lol) So to all my friends,family, and bloggers we are HAPPY being friends that happen to be attracted to each other! Now I have nothing against those who choose to put the boyfriend/girlfriend stamp on it but its just not something that's going to control my life. If we're happy then I see no problem with calling you my friend. Don't let the Labels consume your life and ruin your relationships. Those on the outside lookin in can say whatever but hey live ya life and be HAPPY!
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Friday, November 6, 2009
A Dream Deferred
The inspiration for the post is for all those who dont believe that my dreams could ever come true...
I have big dreams but what do they matter to you? They dont. Why? because why should you feel like my dreams would come true? What would make my dream different from the billion of people that want to do the same thing that im doing? This is the thoughts that run through most people's mind when you are disscussing your dreams ambitons or anything thats going well in your life. The most hate will come from those that dont have their life together and arent in tune with themselves. You see there are so may people that are bitter with their situation that they will belittle your hopes and dreams because they didnt do it so why would you? There's a quote from Mark Twain that says... "Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great." Ponder that for a minute. What its saying is that not everyone is your friend and not everyone is on the same team as you. Those that have it going on will try to help you succeed with them oppose to those that dont have anything going on they will try to pull you down with them. KEEP PUSHING! Use these people as stepping blocks to make it as far as you need to go. Where does a dream deffered go? up in the clouds with the rest of the dreams waiting on you to snap back into reality, reach up, grab it back down, and claim it as yours. Never let someone tell you cant do something or it wont happen for you becuase if you stay positive and really claim it; trust me it will happen.The other point that you must do is go after it! you have to be on top of your game and be a go- getter! Nothing is just going to fall in your lap, you have to work, work, and even when your tired WORK for what you want. In the end you will be sitting pretty/ handsome lol with that goal youve been striving to reach. keep ya head up and reach for the stars because as a wise friend told me.... "People who don't reach for the stars will never see Mars" Toodles!
I have big dreams but what do they matter to you? They dont. Why? because why should you feel like my dreams would come true? What would make my dream different from the billion of people that want to do the same thing that im doing? This is the thoughts that run through most people's mind when you are disscussing your dreams ambitons or anything thats going well in your life. The most hate will come from those that dont have their life together and arent in tune with themselves. You see there are so may people that are bitter with their situation that they will belittle your hopes and dreams because they didnt do it so why would you? There's a quote from Mark Twain that says... "Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great." Ponder that for a minute. What its saying is that not everyone is your friend and not everyone is on the same team as you. Those that have it going on will try to help you succeed with them oppose to those that dont have anything going on they will try to pull you down with them. KEEP PUSHING! Use these people as stepping blocks to make it as far as you need to go. Where does a dream deffered go? up in the clouds with the rest of the dreams waiting on you to snap back into reality, reach up, grab it back down, and claim it as yours. Never let someone tell you cant do something or it wont happen for you becuase if you stay positive and really claim it; trust me it will happen.The other point that you must do is go after it! you have to be on top of your game and be a go- getter! Nothing is just going to fall in your lap, you have to work, work, and even when your tired WORK for what you want. In the end you will be sitting pretty/ handsome lol with that goal youve been striving to reach. keep ya head up and reach for the stars because as a wise friend told me.... "People who don't reach for the stars will never see Mars" Toodles!
Thursday, November 5, 2009
The Beauty Of a Redwood???
Some people when you ask to use words to describe themselves say things like...kind, outspoken, loyal etc... I'm convinced I'm from a different breed. When people ask me to describe myself in words I tell them it is impossible because there are so many words to describe me.If anything I will tell them out of all the words to use there is one that stands above the rest.. Redwood. For those of you who don't know, a Redwood is a tree. It is the strongest tree in the forrest standing about 10feet tall. These trees are indestructible.They can only self destruct. You see where I'm going with this?I can only self destruct! I will not allow another human being tear me down or ruin me. I have faith in god and I Fear no man but HIM! If you let the struggles of life determine your course or steer you from what is set in your heart you are self destructing because no one is holding anything back from you but YOU! Remember This when times get tuff, when life tries to take its daily tolls. That YOU are the determining factor and in the end It is all a test of FAITH! Be Strong and indestructible!
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